When we stop believing that only we know everything, and what’s best for everyone, it completely transforms the way we feel, work, and create. This in turn impacts the energy of our people (clients, team, family, audience, friends…). In this episode of The Feel Good Factor I share why I feel it’s so important for all of us to bring more humility into our thoughts, words, and actions.

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In my life, the biggest, most elaborate scam that I’ve ever succumbed to, is one orchestrated by my parents. *laughs*

Both of them worked as a crack team! Like, really well together. And me and my sister, as we grew up, we legit believed that…

• one, our parents know everything
• two, they know what’s best
• three, not just what’s best for us, but for the entire world

I was nearly 20 before I even realised all of that is untrue. Absolutely untrue.

You grow up and you start seeing that your parents – who you revered, and put on a pedestal, and looked at with starry eyes, and thought they’re the best ever, most wise creatures in the entire planet…you realise that they’re also human. With human faults, human mistakes, and human lack of certain awareness.

When I did find out, I was disillusioned big time!

It was like somebody had pulled a rug from under me. I’m walking along and suddenly, *chak*, pulled it right out. And I came crashing down on my butt. LOL That’s how I felt.

But then I resolved this, I accepted it, and realised, “Yeah, they’re human too. They know a lot. They have known what’s really good for us throughout our lives, yes, but they don’t know everything. And they definitely don’t know what’s best for everybody around them. Maybe for us to quite a large extent, but not for everybody around them.”

With that acceptance also came a wonderful gift…

The gift of humility.

Understanding that these people, whom I believed to be the wisest of all, don’t really know every single thing, don’t have the answer to every single problem in the universe…when I realised that, I also realised this is true for everybody, anybody.

So that means, even I don’t know everything, and I don’t know what is best for everybody.

Bringing this attitude into my own business, into my own teaching, creativity, coaching sessions, has made a world of difference. Because with humility, I’m able to teach better.

When I share something with someone, I don’t say, “This is the only way, this is the best way, and the right way. You only have to do this, and follow these instructions, this guidance, this way of thinking”. I don’t expect that.

Yes, I have plenty of experience running a vegan business, cooking vegan food, teaching meditation, practicing spirituality, so many things. I do have years of experience under my belt.

So being humble doesn’t mean that I dismiss all this knowledge and experience, the expertise I’ve honed over time.

I don’t dismiss it, but also, I accept how much I know, and I teach what I can with a little bit of that humility in there. Knowing that yes, this is my lived experience and that’s why I think this way, that’s why I share these things. But that doesn’t mean it applies a hundred percent to whoever I’m talking to, whoever I’m teaching.

Humility helps you serve with a certain sense of detachment so you’re more in a mode of service instead of a mode of ego.

It doesn’t matter if somebody follows your advice to a T, or your instructions or guidance to a T, because, yes, they have their own lived experiences, their own thoughts, their own feelings.

So always, when you teach, when you share, when you guide someone, mentor someone, when you build a business, or create art, don’t say, “this is the only way a certain thing has to be”.

Being humble and having no expectation also helps you keep on sharing, keep on teaching, keep on serving and giving.

You’re doing your duty or sharing your experience and putting it out there. And then, the way somebody takes it into their life, that’s totally up to them. That’s not your business.

In episode 100 I spoke about Idam Na Mama, where you do something and then you just release it out into the universe.

“This is not mine anymore. I’ve done my work, I’ve done my job. Beyond that, what happens to this information, this knowledge, this guidance, this workshop, this course, this blog post, this podcast episode, anything…what happens to it is totally left up to the universe”. And it can go and land with someone the way it’s meant to land.

You don’t have to control anything about the way it’s received. You only listen to your inner voice, your highest self, and you keep serving, keep giving.

This is applicable even when you’re running your business.

You guide your team a certain way and then you let them go. It helps you – delegation, detachment. You may not know what’s best.

Be curious and allow others to find their way after you’ve given them guidance, a framework. Let them experiment a bit. It’ll give you new ideas. It opens up your world also because you see a particular situation or problem through a different pair of eyes, from a different point of view.

It also applies to how your customers, your clients, your audience receives your work, because it doesn’t matter who likes it, who doesn’t like it, how much they like it or not. That’s not going to hurt you. That’s not going to affect you.

You’ll keep going with your gut, right? Make informed decisions based mainly on your instincts, on your experience, and your gut feeling.

Keep making those decisions and you’ll attract the people who are meant to be attracted to you.

You’re not always focusing on trying to please everybody, trying to be palatable to everybody with your products, your services, your words, whatever you’re doing. You be you, you be authentic. So humility also helps with authenticity.

Think of the areas in which you think you know best, you think you know everything, and only you can do it the right way, only you can see things the right way. We all succumb to this often, and we need a reminder that, “no, you don’t know a hundred percent, you don’t know everything”.

Accept that you’re not the best or the most knowledgeable person ever.

Nobody is. Check yourself. In what areas of your life do you behave this way, think this way, speak this way? See how you can change it, see how you can bring in a little bit of humility to your actions, your words, and your deeds.

And watch the magic it creates! The transformation it creates in the way you live, the way you feel, and also the energy of you and the people around you.

All right! Thank you so much for listening to The Feel Good Factor. If you enjoyed this episode, then you’re going to love my free newsletter, The Feel Good Tribe. Go here and sign up. I look forward to seeing you inside the tribe.

Talk to you again next week. Take care. Bye!

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Susmitha Veganosaurus

“I read voraciously, find humour in most things, and I’m most in my element when I’m teaching, writing, and playing with clay. I believe authenticity and kindness are the keys to world peace. Sign up for myfree newsletterwhere I share conversational emails with stories about Life and Business Tips, Vegan Hacks, Holistic Guidance, and more.“

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